As a child I was a fierce ball of spitfire- a force to be reckoned with. I was always behind the hare-brained ideas that so often got my little brother and me in trouble. My passions and capers would put a Shakespearian hero to shame. I would ride in a car without my seatbelt, swim without my life jacket and commit any other number of misdemeanors that, for a kid, meant you were living on the edge. I exasperated my mother, grandmother and babysitter who all just knew I would grow up to be a little wildling.
For my part, I tried as hard as I could to prove them right. Although I loved dresses and makeup and dolls; the idea of femininity was somewhat abhorrent to me. Not because I hated the gender roles themselves, I loved to cook, nurture and even dress in frills, but simply because of the stigma attached to them. Being feminine meant I could no longer be interested in bugs, climb trees, help grandpa fix his old tractor or play punches with my dad.
In my eyes, the world for little girls was nearly always a world of no. My grandmother especially was guilty of the "Young ladies don't" maxims (i.e. play with bugs/climb on trees/sit crossed legged/go for walks alone/rough house...). And for my part, if young ladies didn't do it, you had better bet I did.
One time, after being shooed outside for being too loud while Mrs. Fannie's husband, Bub, took his nap; Colton Wayne took off his shirt while we were digging in the sand box. Colton and I were friends, but more than that we were rivals for "leader". He was always trying to push my buttons or one up me (I guess I egged him on, too- some). I got the feeling that this was one of those times; especially since I had not wanted to go adventure on the train tracks and pretend be hobos. Most of the other kids were relieved because playing on the train tracks was strictly forbidden and punishable by a fly swat and a timeout. So, we went to go dig in the sandbox for treasure instead. Being pirates and digging for treasure was one of my favorite games and just so happened to be my idea.
"Girls cant take off their shirts. Only boys." Colton looked at me pointedly. A stupid smug smile on his stupid face.
Of course I could take off my shirt, it was the easiest thing in the world and I told him as much in the vernacular of a 5 year old:
"Yuh-huh. I just don't want to."
Colton raised his eyebrows and lifted his chin condescendingly. "Nuh-uh." he chided, "its not allowed 'cause you're a girl and its against the rules. My daddy said so."
That did it. My shirt was up over my head in one fluid motion. My short hair swung around my shoulders, and my cheeks flushed in self-righteous pride and anger. "Cant never could do nothing" and I could do anything I wanted to, including take off my shirt like a boy. My unformed girl's chest was bared against the world and the rules and propriety. I was, for that sweet moment of glorious defiance, Joan of Arc and Lady Godiva all rolled into one and reincarnated in Mrs. Fannie's backyard playground.
This feeling lasted all of 30 seconds, because after that all hell broke loose.
As I had pulled the shirt up over my head, my grandmother pulled up in the driveway to take me and my brother to our swimming lessons at the country club (which, I might add, was more club than country) and, of course, Colton was raising a fuss to tattle on me.
"I'm tellin'!!" Colton shouted in triumph. "Mrs. Fannie!!! Mrs. Fannie!!! Rachel TOOK her SHIRT OFF!"
Mrs. Fannie, always vigilant, made it out the door just as my grandmother stepped out of the car. Mrs. Fannie was nearly as mortified as my grandmother and stood there, shocked. My grandmother had rushed out of the car so fast that she forgot to put the car in park. Mrs. Fannie could only watch the scene unfold. Poor innocent woman! What else could she do? She was too late to stop what Colton knew my pride would set in motion.
I was plucked out of the small crowd of children and the discarded and dirty shirt was forced back over my head and shoulders- like water dowsing a flame. In a flash I was hustled into her little Mercedes along with my brother and told under no uncertain circumstances was I to move from the back seat of the car. As an especially cruel punishment, my brother was seated in the front seat- my rightful place as the eldest. My grandmother went to go have a "talk" with Mrs. Fannie and we were to stay put, but she promised that my daddy would hear about this.
I watched as my grandmother went to go talk to Mrs. Fannie, who had, up until this point, been making dinner for her husband, Bub who worked a graveyard shift and the kids whose parents couldn't pick them up until late. My grandmother and my babysitter both had their grownup faces on. Anyone watching would think that they were neighbors swapping recipes for lemonade and sweet tea. But my grandmother's gestures were too gracious. Her smile was too wide and showed too many teeth. Although I couldn't hear, I knew first hand that my grandma's words were honeyed but poisonous with strikes of lightning that fell between the words. I felt sorry for Mrs. Fannie, but I felt sorrier for myself because I knew there was going to be at least a 20 minute lecture and some hint about everyone letting me run wild all the time and how if she had a week, she would make a lady out of me. Unlikely.
I looked over at Colton. He was still standing without his shirt a big mocking grin on his face. His victory was too strong to be contained in a smile and it bubbled over into an awkward victory dance. He stuck his tongue out and wiggled his fingers near his ears then jumped around and wiggled his butt in my direction.
Mrs. Fannie saw all of this and put two and together. She excused herself from my grandmother to deal justice. She just so happened to have run out with her flyswatter - her weapon of choice. Many a tender thigh had been smote with that little green swatter. It was one of the only things that was capable of putting the fear of God in me. She shook what was meant for me at Colton as she marched towards him, looking for the world like a charging old lady bull in her long straight skirt and button up collared shirt.
"But I'm a boy!" I heard Colton whine as he put his shirt back on. He started to make a run for it, but Mrs. Fannie was too quick for him and SWAT! The other kids backed away from Colton, eyeing the swatter warily. Everyone respected the swatter. Mrs. Fannie said something to him which made him sulky. Probably that she was going to call his daddy. Everyone knew Colton's dad believed in corporal punishment a little too strongly and would make that fly swat feel like a mothers kiss. Be that as it may, I was satisfied with this new turn of events. I felt a shred of my dignity restored like a balm to my bruised heart. Maybe the world was full of "no" for a girl, but maybe boys couldn't do just anything they wanted either.
My grandmother had evidently seen enough and she turned to go back to the car, but just then the car began to roll backwards with my brother and me in the car. I screamed, and both she and Mrs. Fannie forgot their previous differences but were too stunned to move. The car picked up speed as it rolled towards the train tracks but Bub appeared out of nowhere like an angel. He, somehow, was able to get behind and stop the car before it dropped off the embankment and onto the train tracks.
My grandmother was forced to utter a sheepish "thank you so much" to Mrs. Fannie and Bub before she got in the car and nearly cried, I think. During the whole car ride from Nortonville to Madisonville, my grandmother didn't say hardly two words besides "are you two okay?" and "I'm so sorry... I don't know.. I am so sorry". She was so shaken she entirely forgot about the lecture she was going to give me about how young ladies don't take their shirts off and even about telling my daddy. I guess that's why today, I still smile at pictures of Joan of Arc and Lady Godiva impishly. Unlike them, for perhaps the first time in history, I got away with not being a lady.